Don’t waste your life stop following others, it means that if you playing a role if you wearing a mask if you dressed in clothes that are not yours then you end up living a life that’s not yours.
The reason I stand with identity is that I think that’s the root of all over challenges.
When you fake being someone for so long . You think it’s your reality.
And that’s what happens to all of us, we play a role at work, we play a role at home, we play a role with our family, Play w role with our friends and then we think that role is us. And we lose ourselves.
Our identity should start with unlearning everything we think we know about ourselves. So the best method of unlearning is this
There are four points all about Don’t waste your life stop following others.
1. Write down everything you are chasing
The first thing is you have to write down everything that you are currently chasing in your life.
You can write down 3, you can write down 5, you can write down 10, it depends on your ambitious you are.
2. Where did you get that idea?
Ask yourself what is the source of that where are you get the idea from.
A Tv show you saw, did you get that idea from your parents?
Did you get that idea from your mom and your dad, your sister, your cousin?
Did you get that idea, because your friend just got proposed to on Instagram?
Did you get that idea because you just broker up?
Or did you get an idea because you just feel it when you do it that you feel alive?
3. What is coming from inside of me?
If you do these 3 step process, Now what you are doing is you are filtering out the noise and you are starting to listen to your voice.
The thing is you have got a voice inside of you but it’s quiet, and the noise of everyone else opinions are so loud.
One of the biggest mistakes we make is that we confuse inexperience with being unqualified, So because we have not tried to lot of things, we just naturally believe we can’t be that good at them.
So if I have never spoken on a stage, I just think oh I am probably not good at that.
Or, If I have never played golf I probably think oh I am probably not good at that.
The second question you ask yourself is why did I or why did I not like it?
Do I want to do it again?
4. A balance between Ego and Self-confidence
What we experience most of the time is extremes so the two extremes the most of us experience are either.
I have to think I am the best of the best in the world when I watch anyone look I am not gonna show everyone.
What I am like or most of us experience the other extreme which is
I am the worst, I am the stupidest, I am the dumbest, I am the most worthless, I am the biggest loser notice how that’s ego really show.
Why so negative see the ego wants to be the best of the best or the ego wants to be the worst of the worst the ego won’t accept being in the middle real confidence comes from knowing your strength and going all-in them your confidence does not come from just standing up the right way or just saying the right stuff to yourself.
Real confidence comes from can do this and I love doing it and really the most important bit of confidence comes from saving other people when you see the impact you have another and this is the biggest issue the reason why we have such low self-esteem.
In the theatre of happiness, there are infinite and unlimited seats. There is a seat with your name on it in the theatre of dreams.
Don’t waste your life stop following others. The basic motive of this blog is that you have options, you will do whatever there is no dependency choose best for yourself do best for yourself.
I hope this is helpful for you. Thank you
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